Relationship

You are already in relationship with all beings. This is the first tenet of ‘The Zapchen motorists guide to relationship’, written by one of my teachers (Julie Henderson).

Things cannot be other than they are

Feeling frustrated with someone may be an understandable organismic reaction, but thinking that someone else should be different to how they are completely misses the point – they cannot be different to how they are!

You cannot love someone who is not present

So often people want their partner to change, to be different than they are. But you can only be in relationship with the person who is present now. You can’t be in relationship with the object of your hopes and desires, because it does not exist.